You have to spend a lot of time talking to people to actually generate a lasting conversation that leads to a date. It’s a bit of a frustrating process because many people cut off the conversation in the middle and don’t talk to you again. In my case, when I didn’t want to continue talking, I at least let them know.
Almost always the expectations created are higher than the perception during the date. The underlying problem is that all users post their best pictures, and even if you know that, you are always a bit disappointed when you actually meet the person. And that often has a very negative influence on the date. In the same register, there is the way the person expresses themselves and moves, which you might not like in person, but which you couldn’t notice online. These seem like minute details but they are not, because they are part of the person’s perception. In some cases the disappointment is overcome, because you would have liked that same person just as much if you had met them in reality from the first moment, and in others the disappointment is definitive.
Mystery is lost. When you meet a person casually in life and you like them, at the beginning you don’t even know if they have a partner or not, if they are looking for a partner or not, etc. There is a whole mystery and a game of seduction that in my opinion disappears to a large extent when you meet someone online. You’re both going to see if something comes up, somehow it seems too calculated and unnatural to me.
For these reasons, dating sites in particular don’t do much for me. I prefer to rely on my wide circle of friends and my social activities, because when you have a lot of friends, you end up being introduced to a lot of new people and sometimes a potential partner appears, when you weren’t looking for one.
Another important but
I don’t really know if it’s fair to put it as a downside of this kind of sites or apps, but when you meet someone new, you don’t know their real intentions. There are people who may have a very well thought-out speech because they know it works, they interest other people, they meet, and what happens happens is what happens. The same thing that happens in nightclubs, of course, but in this case, having access to hundreds of potential contacts makes life easier for collectors. However, with a bit of common sense, if you’re looking for a partner and not a one-night stand, you’ll be able to unmask those who have other plans.
Speaking of this point, it seemed to me that Tinder was more about flirting and POF more about finding a partner. Maybe also because the users of the first app are generally younger than those of the second.
What you need to know about online dating sites
If you’re one of those people looking for love, chances are you’re at least considering – or it’s your first choice – using online dating sites. But how can you make a successful romantic connection over the computer?
Experts say the key is to choose the right dating sites.
First, consider the old adage that you get what you pay for. Free sites may be more attractive to those who are just looking or canvassing. Sites that charge a monthly fee may attract people who are more interested in a real relationship.
Deciding what you are really looking for in a partner can help you narrow down your options. So-called “matchmaking” sites may be your best bet for a long-term relationship. Other sites are more suited to casual dating. Also consider niche dating sites, which are based on a shared religion or special interests. Read the latest reviews of dating websites and also ask your friends for recommendations.
Once you’ve found someone you find interesting, make sure you take the necessary steps to keep yourself safe by following these tips that are never out of place:
Don’t divulge financial information and remain anonymous until you feel ready to share personal details.
Before you and your date meet in person, do some “independent” research on your potential partner: Google his or her name and check out his or her social media pages.
When you meet, use your own transportation, meet in a public place and let a friend and/or family member know when and where you will meet.
Don’t forget to take a smart approach if you’re going to use this high-tech route to find romance. With the latter in mind and the information we’ve provided, you may even be able to find the right guy or girl.
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