Therapist dealing with extramarital affairs usually take it lightly, two things are very important to realize at this type of sin. First the affair is like a trauma, I know they are very common in societies, but on the other hand it can dramatically victimize the self-esteem of your partner, and leave a lasting aftereffect which time cannot erase, leaving your to partner on distrust on yourself. The person who is guilty is left with shame from friends and family members.
A second side of the coins contains that this type of affairs is harder to stop. But if you are facing a situation, don’t give-up, don’t let your kids be victims for your sin. I gave you 6 steps which help you to recover after extramarital affair.
1) Don’t Hide Uncover The Reason of the Affair :
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON ! The reason of the affair can easily be found, affairs are symptomatic of a relation problem which was never uncovered. So it is therefore necessary to uncover the reason due to which affair borne as son as possible.
2) Consider your history :
Affairs are common in families, if one of your parents mom or dad have an affair you may try to realize his behavior in real time thinking from the offender’s perspective, trying to get his needs met. You have to be assertive and try to express your needs and desires straight-fully can be helpful in breaking this communication gap.
3) The Offender Must Take Responsibility For Having the Affair :
The person who is guilty must take responsibility of his sin, and if the offender’s partner fails or refuses to show guilt, the probability of recovering from being less so. The expression of aggression or anger by offender destroy relation rather than healing.
4) The Non-offender Partner Must Accept The Responsibility If he/she was Responsible of The Affair :
Only blaming the victim doesn’t solve your problem or make your help to recover your relationship. The non-offending partner should accept the responsibility to contribute that solve problem by accepting if he/she make any fault which make offender to make the affair. Otherwise, only blaming doesn’t take you anywhere.
5) Each Partner Should Be Allowed to Express His feelings :
Most of time the other partner tries to suppress the offending partner, try to take hold discussion table of the affair talk. In discussion the guilty partner should give a chance to express his feelings, and his point of view openly. The offending partner should be allowed to talk free if he/she have any complaints about the marital relationship status.
6) Both Partner Sympathize With Each Other :
Instead of blaming each other, it’s better to to show sympathy to each other, because it’s because two of you due to which affair was produced. Each of you might recognize the pain and suffer from which next person going through.
# Conclusion :
If both of you and your partner successfully dialogue and negotiate with each other by making these steps, framework during the discussion you will easily forgive each other recover your relationship again. I don’t promise that it would be easy _ But it will take both of your efforts to save the relationship. No one will do it for you, only you can do it!
